Tuesday, August 3, 2010

Comment Moderation

So, I've gotten some pretty ugly comments lately, so I felt the need to say that rude and hateful comments will NOT be approved for any reason. I realize that not everyone views adoption as a good thing, and that's ok...that's why we have the freedom to believe what we want to. While some may say that "God has nothing to do with adoption," or that, "the right thing for a child is to always leave them with their natural mother" and some may even say that I am "being selfish by ripping an innocent baby out of the arms of a poor, young, helpless girl who is being coerced in to selling her baby," that is not how I view adoption. I do not think that I am saving a child, and I do not think that I am doing something heroic, either. We desire to have a child, and have chosen adoption as our route to do so.

So, the opinions that I express here are just that...my opinions. Comments are welcome, but please be grown up and respectful about it. If you're not going to be respectful, then don't bother because I won't even think about approving it.

Please and Thank You :)

(Is it just me, or is it extremely sad that I have to ask this of grown ups?)


Kelly Jo said...

I would like to leave a rude comment for those people leaving hateful and rude comments about adoption.... :) Stay strong. Adoption is a long journey, but completely worth it. Much love!

Sandy Young said...

Adoption is perhaps a lovely journey for adopters, but please keep in mind that for a child to be available for adoption, one must first destroy the mother. If you can, in conscience, continue with that thought ever present in your mind, then adopt. But, from someone who has lived this for over 40 years, I can attest to the truth of this.

There are very few women who surrender their children eagerly, willingly. There percentages are minute. The percentages of women who desire to adopt a healthy infant are soaring.

Adoption is based on legalized lies, pepetuated by more lies, from promises of open adoption to the sealed records. Corruption flourishes in secrecy and lies, and adoption is no exception.

Kelly said...

Sandy, thank you for being respectful while stating your thoughts. I appreciate that. And I certainly welcome feedback from people on the other side of the spectrum...that's why I'm here! I want to learn as much as I can what it's like for different people, including adult adoptees, so that I can do anything in my power to make our child's story (and the birthmother's) a positive one. We haven't decided 100% on whether we are doing open adoption or not, because I want the birthmom to be included in that decision. Although I would LOVE an open adoption. I would love for her to be there for birthdays and such, if she so chooses.

Everyone's story is different, but I have spoken to many birthmoms who have very positive stories, and if there is anything I can do to make our child's story positive, then I will do it. I don't believe it HAS to be a negative thing, although sometimes it is.